Last Saturday was one of the rare nights we had nothing planned so Mark and I decided to pop open a bottle of champagne, snuggle up on the couch and enjoy a relaxing evening in. With New Years Eve just a couple days away naturally the topic of resolutions and goals for 2019 came up. I typically cringe at the idea of coming up with a resolution, but this year I knew exactly what I needed to do. Start showing up for myself!
I always prioritize my family, friends and clients first. While I love and am fulfilled by giving to the people I care about, why can't I do the same for myself? I could tell instantly Mark agreed but of course he had a follow up question..."why don't you show up for yourself now?". Umm...it's obvious right? I don't have the time!! Kids, my career, our relationship and household it's a lot right? Please don't take this the wrong way, I am so grateful and love it all! I just don't know where the time for myself goes? As my rant goes on, I can see in Mark's eyes this was the exact response he was expecting, he calmly asks me another question. "How does it effect you when you feel you have no time for yourself?" My response was, I feel overwhelmed which leads to anxiety and stress that I ultimately end up deflecting on everyone else. With a big smirk on his face "Hmm...so you would say it has a negative effect on the people you care about?".
Doing it in his own sarcastic way, my husband wanted to be sure that I understood in order for my resolution to become a change I need realize that trying to put everyone else first all the time is actually having the opposite effect of what I want. I have to make sure I am taking care of myself, so that I can be the best version of Nikki and that will allow me to give more to those I care about. If I look at it simply as I am either doing for myself or for others it will never stick. So starting in 2019 I am going to be making both my physical and mental health a priority!
Let's start with the stops 🙂 No more 12 hour work days without eating a thing! (I know I am not the only hairstylist guilty of this one) No more days without taking some time to relax, even if it is just for a minute to stop and be grateful for something in my life. No more cancelling my workouts to do another load of laundry...I'm sure Mark can pick up the slack ;).
What I will start doing is drinking more water and maybe (emphasis on the maybe) drink a little less coffee. I will commit time to myself every day. I will work out and I will eat healthier!
Well that's easy right? Eat, drink water, workout and a little bit of relaxation...sign me up! Oh almost forget then life hits...we all know how this goes. So let's talk about some specific tactics to make it happen!
- No more 12 hour work days without eating - enter snacks in my mini fridge at work! I know I don't have a single client that would mind if I took a quick bite before starting them, I don't even have to leave the room! Heck most of my clients check to see if I need a break before starting (I really have the most amazing clients ever!)
- No more days without taking time to relax - Thank you nap time! When Hendrix naps I will take 20 minutes to do me before I do anything else. Whether this means reading a book, writing for my blog or working out, it's 20 minutes to work on me.
- Drink more water - I am so scared to be committing to the world on this one, not because I don't like drinking water but because I am only allowing my morning coffee (singular) and after that no more coffee until I have consumed at least 32 ounces of water! Yes, this will seriously be hard for me don't judge!
Lastly I believe it is important to be able to get away and enjoy time with friends and family. This year I am so excited to be taking a girls trip to Napa (have I mentioned I like wine?). Spending time away with friends is great for the soul, drinking wine, getting massages and non stop laughs don't hurt either!
I hope everyone has an incredible New Year. Remember, it's not about becoming a new you, it's about giving more of the true you to the world! Make this a year of finding fulfillment, joy, passion, peace and purpose. What are your goals for the New Year? I would love to hear, comment and let me know!